Can I gather all my thoughts? Probably not but I’ll give it a shot. It seems my boys have really started developing a need for independence. Which on one hand is extremely encouraging but on the other hand can make me sad. Sad because when you take the time to go on your child’s field trip and find they don’t really want you there well thats going to make any Mom sad right? So next year G gets to go on his field trips alone unless something changes. But at least I know he can handle it. He is so smart too. I really had no idea just how smart till I talked with his teacher on the field trip since someone needed his space. I told his teacher I don’t hang around many typical kids so I just thought its only 1st grade they all do good just starting out. Well apparently thats not the case. She looked at me almost like I was crazy. I mean he did get a few U papers on his comprehension test so I mean I had legit concerns in my mind. She almost laughed. So there you have it. He may give me other concerns but academics should not be one of them. So I guess I am gonna have to back off my worries and let this kid fly before he starts feeling smothered.
B has a different kind of independence going on. He learned how to fix his own snack and does a great job. Only issue is limiting the favorite snack. He wants two bags even if it overflows. He is also digging in his closets and dumping everything which he has done in the past but especially lately and more often. I don’t mind since his room is super organized and I can just use a dust pan like a shovel for all his cars and trains to put back in all his drawers. He helps and really I should reduce how many he has by putting some in storage. But I feel like this about things, stimming and other not so desirable habits. If you take things away it can lead to other even less desirable habits so you have to choose your battles wisely. I think if you have things organized well and it takes less than 5 mins to clean up its wise to just leave things as they are and make them help as often as possible. He has also decided he has an opinion on clothing choices and food choices. Which he has never shown much interest in choosing shirts or what he wants to eat unless its his favorite snack. So thats nice but kinda ruins the concept of picking out their clothes for the week and putting in drawers under the bed. That almost lasted an entire school year. I may just put two options in each and see how that works.
Ill try and post pics. G had a really nice piece of art from school last week.